Making Small Talk Exercise: Ask Me a Question

Making Small Talk Exercise: Ask Me a Question


This activity can be used for coaching skills or making conversations. The basic principle behind the activity is simple and the aim is to provide an easy structure to follow. Use this activity where you need to get delegates to talk to each other about a given topic or a topic of their choice. It is also useful for mentoring or life coaching. You can also use it to get the delegate practice questioning and listening skills.


Coach a person by encouraging asking questions.

What You Need

  • An area where pairs can sit far enough from each other so that they don’t over hear too easily.


  • Divide the delegate to pairs. If you have an odd number of delegates use a group of three.
  • Ask each group to nominate one person as coach and one person as coachee.
  • Ask the coach and coachee in each group to sit face to face and go through a coaching session.
  • The coach should start by saying, “Ask me a question.”
  • The coachee should ask a question. It is up to you to introduce rules on what kinds of questions should be avoided. For example, in a professional setting you may want to state, “Asking personal questions is not allowed.” So you can focus the coaching session on work. In contrast, if this is about life coaching, then personal questions should be categorically excluded.
  • Depending on the reply received the coachee should continue asking more questions to learn more about a given topic.
  • The coach should reply briefly and ask for another question. This is important because the aim is to make the coachee drive the conversation.
  • If there is a pause, the coach should fill the gap by saying, “Ask me a question.”
  • The tendency is that initially coachees stick to asking safe question. As the conversation continues they start to feel comfortable enough to ask more specific and eventually personal questions.
  • Allocate 10 minutes for this part.
  • Swap roles and ask the pairs to repeat the exercise for another 10 minutes.
  • Bring back everyone together and follow with a discussion.


Explaining the Exercise: 2 minutes

Activity: (10 min * 2 rounds) = 20 minutes

Group Feedback: 10 minutes


What did you think of this coaching exercise? As a coachee, how useful was it that you got to ask a series of questions and remain in control of the conversation? What do you think of this style of coaching? 

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