Assertiveness Exercise: Share with me

Assertiveness Exercise: Share with me


This fun exercise shows the effect of assertiveness in achieving goals by presenting a combination of passive, aggressive and assertive behaviours in the task.


Delegates to persuade another person to share something with them using assertive, passive and aggressive requests.

What you need

A box of chocolate


  • Pick one delegate who claims to be good at assertiveness. Give the box of chocolate to him or her.
  • Pick three other candidates and take them to a different room in turn. Instruct one delegate to use aggressive behaviour to get a share of chocolates. The other two delegates should each use either passive or assertive approach to get any chocolate.


Explaining the Test: 5 minutes.

Activity: 10 minutes

Group Feedback: 20 minutes.


Discuss the effect of assertiveness with the group. Engage delegates in a discussion about different approaches witnessed during this task, their level of success and their shortcomings.




lora korah

By lora korah @ Monday, January 25, 2010 10:51 AM

good game to fit the purpose


By namz @ Wednesday, March 17, 2010 3:54 PM

hey... thanks it works wonders.... :)

Wycliffe Likhaya

By Wycliffe Likhaya @ Tuesday, November 8, 2011 11:08 AM

Hi Im happy at your games for team building. However i can note that games of effective teams mentorship are purely missing. Maybe you could consider having the games uploaded or advise me on where i can be able to get them.

Chelsea Elm

By Chelsea Elm @ Saturday, November 12, 2011 10:28 AM

Wycliffe, we have many games and exercises on team building. Please use the categories listed on the right side of this page to find them.


By hy @ Friday, April 20, 2012 10:54 AM

would appreciate if you could explain the discussion in more detail, specifying how to reach a desired learning outcome, what the game actually refers to and what the solutions are in some case

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